We’ve all been there. You suddenly hit a wall, you’re stressed out, and a sudden urge consumes you: You need a vacation. The problem, sometimes, is finding a friend to travel with you – especially on short notice. Jenna just went on that Caribbean cruise with her family and Mark has to save his vacation days for his best friend’s destination wedding. If you’re desperate for a getaway, you shouldn’t put it off until someone is available to join you. You have to travel alone. So what?

It’s easy to rationalize the pros to traveling alone. You know you’ll likely get a lot of reading done, maybe get a chance to brainstorm for a side project, get fit, work on your goals – maybe even meet someone special. But first, you’ll have to get over these 6 fears:

1. The fear of being lonely. “Lonely” is a term often used by those who aren’t sure how to maximize their alone time. Time to yourself is valuable, and you can be very productive during this time. Rather than feeling lonely, think of all the things you tend to put off when you’re with your friends. Perhaps it’s your physical fitness, your blog, brainstorming for your side business, or your passion for adventure.

2. The fear that you won’t be able to afford the trip on your own. This is an issue on the minds of many solo travelers. When you travel with a friend, you have someone to split the cost of almost everything. However, there are many ways to save money if you’re alone. For example, the solo traveler might opt for a quaint and affordable rental unit from a private owner, rather than staying at an expensive hotel. Did you know that a private owner’s rental unit can be gorgeous (right by the beach, great views, full kitchens) and can actually be the same price or cheaper than a grungy hostel?

3. The fear of meeting new people. It’s likely you’ll want to make some friends if you’re traveling alone, but some people are anxious when it comes to meeting new people. Staying in a hostel or going on a guided tour are both great ways of meeting people, but you don’t need to do either of those things in order to meet new friends. The trick is the scenario. For example, on a booze cruise it’s pretty easy to make friends. It’s all about the relaxed environment. If the beach has a good vibe and lots of people your age, make up an excuse to talk to a group of people and take it from there. My favorite line is, “Hey do you guys know of any good hikes around here? Oh did you want me to take group photo of you guys?” Now you’ve given them a gift (something to Instagram) so they probably already love you.


4. The fear that you won’t feel comfortable spending time with people you barely know. This fear has some legitimacy, we’re all a lot more comfortable spending the day with our best friends rather than randoms. However, anytime a situation is pushing you outside your comfort zone, that’s a great thing. You’re gaining new experiences, learning new things from interesting people, and ultimately making friends for life if you play it right.

 5. The fear that you won’t be self-motivated enough to explore. Sometimes being with a friend is what we need to be brave enough to explore, and getting out there on your own requires a bit more self-motivation. The best way to achieve this self-motivation is to be prepared. Plan what time you’ll have to leave, pack your bag with everything you’ll need the night before, and that way you’ll be more motivated to follow through.

6. The fear that traveling solo is weird. It’s not weird. Many people actually prefer to travel solo because they can do exactly what they want to do on their trip, when they want to do it. They can see what they want to see instead of worrying about what their group wants to do. Most importantly, traveling solo is great for personal growth and working on yourself. It makes you look bad-ass, so just do it.

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About The Author

Erica Majored in Psychology at UBC and has since followed her passion for writing and journalism. After working at one of the world's largest dating sites for a few years, she began contributing dating advice to publications such as Elite Daily, AskMen and Vancity Buzz. It wasn't long before she decided to start her own dating advice column, The Babe Report. The rest is history. Follow her on Instagram @ericaleighgordon or on Facebook at facebook.com/thebabereport

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  1. travishaiste13@hotmail.com'
    Travis

    I thought that reply by Erica was wonderful and well written.

    Traveling solo can be great cause it allows you to do what you want when you want with no objection or complaints or hmm and haaas, or the what if’s. I think that travelling with a best friend or a significant other is the best way to travel cause it’s always that much better when you can share that special moment with that special someone. Just something about the whole event that when you get to do something out of the ordinary and it’s pleasurable you can now share this special time with someone and it makes you all that more satisfied. IT’s kinda like riding motorbikes or ski-doo’s it’s a lot of fun, but when you do it with someone else it elevates that time to being that much more special and fun. I experienced this first hand while working/travelling. I worked for a cat skiing lodge up in the mountains called Island Lake Lodge. My job was to shuttle guests and staff to the lodge and to the parking lot in a big snow cat. It was a wicked job and lot’s of fun too. Another job of mine was to shuttle guests on snow mobiles and a few times I rode with some of the guides(they were guides for cat skiing) and we would ride side by side cutting corners hitting jumps and dodging logs it was a lot of fun and more fun doing it with someone else as opposed to being alone. I would never replace riding with someone with riding alone so the same goes with travelling, when you have that special someone or that special friend it’s that much more special and that much more fun of a time trust me. Lauging alone isn’t as much fun as laughing with someone especially if you trust and admire that person.

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