Is it time to stop dating men who don’t treat you right, and start dating single dads? There are lots of unexpected benefits to dating a single dad, and it’s possible that dating a single dad could solve all of your dating problems. First, however, you’ll need to figure out if a single father would be your type of man or not.
It’s undeniable that having a kid changes a person. Typically, it changes a person for the better because they become more mature, more selfless and more responsible. I personally believe that if you’re a single lady looking for love, and you’re excluding single dads from your search, you’re making a mistake. If you meet a great guy and you find out he has a kid, that’s a good thing, not a bad thing. If you’re sick of dating unpredictable men or players, you might love dating a single dad. Certain women aren’t mature enough to date a single father, or they’re simply not cut out for it. Meanwhile, after being exhausted by the low-caliber men in today’s dating world, many of us have realized the benefits of dating a man with real-world responsibilities. Here are 10 major pros of dating a single dad:
1. They Know How To Love
Single dads have learned what love is. They know how to love genuinely, unconditionally, and patiently. Their little one helped opened their hearts that much more, creating more capacity to love.
With a greater capacity for and understanding of love, single fathers might just love you like you’ve never been loved before.
Plus, if he has a daughter, he’ll naturally want to treat you the way he wants a man to treat her one day.
2. They’re Not Afraid of Commitment
If you’re sick of commitment-phobes, you’re in luck. A single dad knows how to commit to something. He has made a huge commitment to his kid, and he isn’t afraid of commitment anymore.
He’s at the point in his life where the idea of settling down doesn’t scare him, because he realized he had to settle down the moment he knew he was going to be a father. That means he’s more likely to be looking for something serious. Plus, he has too much on his plate to add the headache of juggling women – and he doesn’t have time to troll for women at the bars.
The likelihood that a single dad is a player is quite slim, so if you’re sick of dating players who can’t fathom the idea of commitment, look no further than your local daycare or neighborhood park.
3. They’re Mature
If you’re at a point in your life where maturity is important to you, know that single fathers have that maturity. Even if you’re dating a young dad, he’ll still be mature, because having a kid forces you to grow up.
Being a father-figure requires maturity, and single dads have to be accountable. Single dads have responsibilities, and that’s a sign that they’ll be able to handle a relationship maturely. Speaking of fatherly responsibilities, single dads have to take their kids to the Dentist, the Doctor, and other appointments. This means that it should be relatively easy to meet a single dad if you’re looking to date one. Simply hang out in the waiting room at Springs Pediatric Dental Care, where a single dad is probably waiting while his kid has a dental appointment.
4. They’re Consistent and Reliable
There’s nothing worse than dating a man who is all over the map, and you might be sick of dating unpredictable, unreliable and inconsistent men. An unattached man without responsibilities tying him down is much more likely to be unpredictable, flaky and unreliable. However, a single dad will naturally have a much more predictable schedule, and he’s also be used to being relied upon and counted on.
Dating a single dad means you’re likely dating someone very reliable, who doesn’t pull disappearing acts or randomly end up in Vegas with the boys when you thought the two of you had plans.
Players tend to be completely inconsistent and unpredictable, keeping you guessing and wondering all of the time. A single father, however, isn’t about that life. It’s a breath of fresh air to date someone consistent who can actually be counted on.
5. They Take The Lead
If you’re into a man who takes the lead, is dominant, and maybe a little bossy – single dads for the win. Single dads have learned leadership qualities, since they have a child who is dependent on them.
When he was younger, he might have been more indecisive and passive. Now, as a parent, he’s become someone who takes more initiative, takes the lead, and makes decisions. This is an incredibly sexy quality in a man. He may even be used to being a little bossy, as a parent, and a little bossiness is another a sexy quality.
6. They’ve Nailed the Date-Night-In
Do you love the date-night-in? Some women love date nights out on the town, and other women prefer the relaxed vibe of the date-night-in. If you’re the type of woman who loves staying in for date nights, you’ll love dating single dads. Babysitters can be expensive and hard to find on a Saturday night, so staying in for date night will likely be the norm when you date a dad. However, a date-night-in can still be sexy, fun and romantic. For example, after his kid goes to sleep, you can set up a romantic date night at home. Light some candles, put on a sexy playlist, and set up wine and cheese night. Plan ahead by picking up a nice bottle of Cabernet and figure out your wine and cheese pairings for the evening. The ambiance of romance can easily be created at home, and it’s much more relaxing than being out on a Saturday night.
7. They’re Providers
When he suddenly had to start providing for a little one, he started getting better at managing his finances and realized how much purpose it gives him to be a provider. Now, he’s a provider through and through. Being a provider is part of his identity now, and he’ll love providing for you if you become part of his world. It’s nice to know that someone you’re dating has the capability to take care of you, even if you don’t need to be taken care of. You’ll feel safer and more comfortable.
8. They Won’t Rush You
Moving too fast can guarantee a failed relationship, which is why moving slow is so important. If you like taking it slow, know that single dads are great at thoughtfully taking their time. Single dads tend to take it slow because they need to make sure you’re compatible before they introduce you to their kid. They also already have a lot on their plate, so they aren’t desperate to move things along too quickly. This works for you, since you don’t want to be rushed into making an important decision about a relationship.
9. They’re Over the Bar Scene
If you’re over the drinking and partying scene, you’re in luck. A dad is likely no longer partying like crazy, drinking all the time, or getting out of control. Once you become a dad, you tend to reign it in, enjoying a more low-key lifestyle.
Once a man becomes a dad, he becomes a real man. He’s well-adjusted and has a good head on his shoulders. He no longer sees much appeal in a crazy night out.
10. They’ve got Good, Old-Fashioned Values
If you’re looking for a man with good, old-fashioned values, look for a single dad. They have learned what’s really important in life, and they have their priorities straight. They understand the value of a quiet night at home with loved ones, and they know that love and family are the most important things in life. They don’t prioritize casino nights with the boys, video games or bar-hopping.