The life of an entrepreneur is full of everyday struggles that could ultimately get in the way of success – unless you’re self-aware and careful. It’s natural that with too much on your plate, the inability to relax or get close to someone will weigh heavily. Getting overwhelmed by your own ideas and how to execute them is enough to make you want to hide out from the rest of the world.
The fact that you’re an ambitious entrepreneur sets you apart from others, but it can get lonely at the top.
There just aren’t enough hours in the day, your anxiety is paralyzing, your plate is too full and you don’t have enough time to date or have a social life. Here are 8 common struggles you will face as an entrepreneur, and how to overcome them:
1. You find it difficult to focus, unless it’s on your business
If your thoughts are constantly on your business, chances are you will be continually stressed out and rarely will you be enjoying the present moment. If your business is not quite where you want it to be yet, you’ll quickly become overwhelmed when you spend too much time thinking about it.
Try compartmentalizing everything that requires your focus. If you’re on a date, make a conscious effort to focus on him or her, and focus on the present moment instead of letting your mind wander. Your date will notice if you’re not truly present when you’re with them, or not engaged. If they notice that your mind is elsewhere, it’s unlikely it’s going to work out between the two of you. Your date will want your attention when they’re with you, and can you really blame someone for that?
2. High Standards
If you’ll stop at nothing to see your own success and have high expectations for yourself, a struggle you may face is having those same high expectations for a partner. Unfortunately, having expectations that are too high can result in failed relationships.
While you should expect the best from both yourself and your significant other, try motivating them to aim higher instead of putting yourself on a pedestal.
3. Inability to relax
When your mind is all over the place, as the mind of a hustler often is, it is difficult to relax. Unfortunately, when you cannot relax or you’re not in the greatest mood it translates into the inability to truly connect with someone. Part of the reason you may feel lonely is because when you’re on a date or with your friends, even if you are in a relaxing environment, you are not relaxed. Your body might be there, but your mind is not, and you therefore are not connecting or enjoying their company.
There are many natural remedies that can help de-stress you. Treat yourself to a relaxing massage, listen to a song that has a calming effect on you, or practice deep breathing while you take a hot bath.
4. Criticism from others
Often, entrepreneurs will purposely keep to themselves because they feel they are constantly being criticized by others instead of being supported. Snide comments in regards to your achievements or your business don’t sneak past you, and they sure do sting. However, every hustler will have haters. Reasons for this include jealousy, the inadequacy others feel, or their desire to bring you down because they aren’t happy.
If you feel as though your only true supporter is you, it’s natural to hide away from others. You may even feel that keeping to yourself is fundamental to your success. However, there are supporters out there – you just need to meet the right people.
5. People are demanding of your time
Someone you are dating, a family member or a close friend of yours might not realize they are being too demanding of your time and pushing you away in the process. When someone guilt trips you saying they never see you, or asks you to hang out too much, this may be too much for you.
The best solution is to meet like-minded people. A woman who is a busy entrepreneur just like her man will be supportive and much less demanding of his time. Friends who are go-getters will understand your goals and not guilt-trip you. Of course, allotting quality time to the few important people in your life is important, and often the only way to do this is to plan ahead.
6. You think the only person who wants to see you succeed is you
This mentality is not always correct. However, many entrepreneurs feel that noone is looking out for them except themselves. It’s common to feel that the only person who could ever care about your success is you, and that mentality makes many entrepreneurs choose to be alone.
However, a partner who truly cares about your well-being will of course want to see you succeed. The right person will support you and not judge you or drag you down.
7. You feel your plate is too full
Perhaps you wish you had a significant other, or you wish you had a closer relationship with your friends and family, but you’re stuck in the mindset that your plate is too full to maintain such relationships.
It’s easy to feel this way, especially when you’re already so overwhelmed with everything you’ve got on the go. It may seem impossible to make room for a relationship. However, being in a relationship can actually contribute to your success. You may think all it will cause is a break of focus, but those wonderful breaks are necessary for your well-being. As long as you are taking care of your well-being, you will be more successful and have more motivation.
8. You have too much riding on your success
Unfortunately, a common mistake many entrepreneurs make is putting too much pressure on any one business or venture. If there’s too much riding on the success of any one project, your mind will never feel at ease. It’s best to have a stable income in the form of a full time job, and put less pressure on the pursuit of your side business or side projects. Ever heard the saying “a watched pot never boils”? Your ventures are more likely to blossom when there is less riding on them. It should be a bonus if you see success, but not the be-all-end-all.